Water Bondage Tips to Add Excitement to Your Sex Life

Written by: Nikolas K | Published on April 27, 2025

No one’s going to come out and say it, but let’s be honest. Sex does get boring if you do the same thing over and over again. That’s why it’s always important to think outside the box, jump out of your comfort zone, and try something new. 

Now, you’ve probably heard and played around with bondage in one form or another, but today, we’re going to add an extra layer to that and introduce you to water bondage. 

This is a fun, wet, and spicy way to jumpstart things in the bedroom, and we’re sure you’re going to love it. 

You’d be hard-pressed to find someone who has no idea what bondage is nowadays. It’s in pop culture, sex in general is looked at a bit more creatively, and the vast majority of people have at least dabbled in it to some extent. 

However, water bondage is a little different, and we don’t blame you if you’ve never thought about it. 

Essentially, water bondage is just a spin on traditional bondage. You add water into the equation, and poof. That’s water bondage. 

It’s not as simple as it sounds, though. That little detail allows for a lot of creativity and excitement that takes things to a whole new level. 

We’ll go over some of the best ways to dive into it and get a little wet with your romance.

The word “humiliation” might seem a bit odd when you’re talking about romance, but it’s actually a big part of bondage in general. The more dominant partner gets to experience the power fantasy they crave, and the more submissive partner can enjoy the rush of being in a powerless position. 

This is one of the easier ways to start with water bondage. It’s typically not dangerous, and there are a lot of ways to work with it. 

Start with either partial or full bondage in your favorite setup. If you’re new to bondage in general, it’s typically best to start with the basics before moving on to water-based bondage and other advanced stuff. Both for safety’s sake and to figure out what you like the most. 

Incorporating water is simple. Splashing, pouring water over the submissive partner, and tossing in verbal commands are all this technique requires. It’s perfect for beginners, doesn’t pose any risks that aren’t already a part of more intense sex in general and gets the job done for both partners. 

You can use this as foreplay in the lead-up to sex, mix in oral and toy play, and get creative with it to keep it interesting.

This is a spin on the first technique, but it ramps up the energy a bit. Rather than superficial use of water that is little more than getting the other person wet, it’s a little more aggressive in a mutually accepted way. 

However, this is far riskier, and while it’s not the most advanced thing on this list, it is something that you need to be cautious with. Don’t worry. We’ll have safety tips toward the end of this guide to help you handle water bondage appropriately and safely. Just know that there are inherent risks to consider for now. 

Dunking is exactly what it sounds like. It typically centers around the submissive partner being partially bound around their arms or wrists, and the dominant partner dunks their head under water. 

It’s a more intense version of BDSM humiliation, and when used properly, it can really add excitement to the encounter. 

Most often, couples tend to use this for bathroom sex because it’s the easiest way to work in a “dunkable” water source, and the actual bondage setup tends to be fairly minimal. 

Stepping away from the more intense stuff for a moment, you can mix bondage and water in a much more playful way. Simple bondage techniques such as cuffs or lighter bounding of the hands in the shower can add a lot of spice without much risk at all, and you can tweak the experience to your personal preferences. You can be playful and add in domination techniques while the showering of water adds more stimulation, etc. 

Now, before you even try this one, you need to go to the safety section, and you need to make sure you’re capable of dealing with all the precautions and responsibilities involved. 

Waterboarding is dangerous. In fact, it was created as a means of legitimate torture. In BDSM, it’s not taken as far as it would be in malicious situations, but due to what it is, it can become tragic if done improperly. This is a highly advanced method of water bondage. 

With that being said, it creates a sense of helplessness in the submissive partner and caters to the power fantasy of the more dominant partner. 

The submissive partner is bound laying down, their face is covered with a rag, and water is poured over their face. Now, you can probably see why it’s so advanced. There’s a real drowning risk, and just because you like kinky stuff in the bedroom doesn’t mean you want to accidentally hurt someone. 

One thing with waterboarding is that it tends to be the sole focus when it’s being done. With other options on this list, you can mix in oral, penetration, sex toys, and more without adding to the risk factor, but with this technique, you’re basically just doing it and then moving on. 

You can dramatically reduce risk with this by setting it up the exact same way, but don’t add the rag, and simply splash water onto your partner’s face instead of pouring it. You get the same effect, but the risk level is much lower. Also, since you’re less focused on safety, you can work on other things, such as toys or play in between splashes. 

If you have a pool, hot tub, or big enough bathtub, you’re in for a treat. Underwater bondage is a great way to mix underwater sex with a bit of spice with just a pair of cuffs or standard bondage gear. 

You have room to get creative, too. 

If you have a pool with a step ladder, you can use that as your anchor point for bounding your partner. In a tub, you can cuff your partner to the spout or the shower rod and enjoy bound water play or sex. 

This one is pretty open in terms of what you can do, and we recommend getting your creative juices flowing. 

When you’re talking about hot, steamy sex, you’re typically not wanting to sit down for a lecture. However, water is a lot more dangerous than you might think, and it’s important that you know what you’re doing and how to stay safe.

With any of these techniques, both partners have responsibilities. However, the dominating partner is the one that is typically going to have that weight on their shoulders since they’re in control.

Here are some things to remember as the dominant partner.

• It’s your responsibility to put the safety of your partner first.
• Always make sure you have the experience and skills necessary before trying something.
• Always ensure your partner is comfortable with new things.
• NEVER ignore your partner’s safety words or motions.
• Always have a way for your partner to communicate a desire to stop.
• Tender aftercare is crucial.

Here are some things to remember if you’re submissive partner.

1. Know your limits and use the safe word or non-verbal motion as soon as you think it’s necessary.
2. Do not try things that are beyond your physical or mental limits.
3. Ensure that your partner is someone you trust to be responsible for your safety.

Beyond the responsibilities of both partners, there are some general safety tips you need to follow.

First, drowning risks are real. Something like legitimate waterboarding shouldn’t be done unless you’re very experienced and know what you’re doing, but even the less risky options require a bit of caution.

For example, if you’re dunking, you want to do short dunks and allow your partner to have ample time to breathe. The tone of the play might be intense, but underneath that performative play, you need to be primarily focused on safety. During breathing breaks, you can work in dominant speech, toys, oral, slapping, and other things to keep the tension and excitement without overdoing the water part.

Slips are also a real threat. Most of these techniques aren’t truly underwater bondage. They include water, but you’re on a slippery surface. A fall in a bathroom can be dangerous. So, keep that in mind.

In underwater bondage, all bounding should be done in a way that the person can get to air on their own. This ensures that they aren’t stuck underwater if something happens to the unbound partner.

Finally, take plenty of breaks. You don’t need to constantly ask “are you okay” or anything that takes you out of the experience, but like our example with dunking, make sure you stop, work in another type of play for a short bit, and give the submissive partner a chance to vocally use their safe word, get a breather, or bring up a problem. If a safe word is used or a problem is brought up, immediately stop and address it.

Water bondage is exciting and adds a whole new layer to your sex life. Just remember to do it safely, have fun, and don’t forget to have a little tender aftercare when you’re done.

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